It’s no secret that finances can be a huge cause of tension, fighting, resentment and all other sorts of undesirable feelings in a relationship. Immediately, when you hear this, your mind probably goes to visualizing two people without enough money to pay their bills fighting. However, not having enough money isn’t the only circumstance in which couples fight about money.
Sometimes people fight about what to do with large amounts of extra money. Or daily expenses that really don’t make or break the bank. Couples can fight over the value of things and if something is “worth it” regardless of their financial situation. They may argue about the best way to raise their children with different financial values.
Fighting about money does not only come about when a couple doesn’t have enough of it to get to by. In many couples, at various levels of income, debt, expenses, spending, etc., fighting about money is frequent and repetitive.
I’m going to share some actionable tips that we have implemented in our relationship that keeps our fighting about money to minimum. This is not to be confused with having conversations about money. We have those on a nearly daily basis. But because of what we’ve implemented, those usually remain as healthy and productive conversations without escalating into fights.
I’m not claiming to be an expert on finances or on relationships or that we are above anyone who frequently fights about money. I just simply have some tips that have worked for us so I’m here to share.